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30 For 30/30 #11 – The Daily Practice of Engaging in Kindness

This is the 11th post in my 30 for 30/30 series where I am publishing a new post each day for the next 30 days within a 30-minute window without much of a plan. You can read about why I’m doing this by clicking this link


I’m in the middle of writing about the five transformative daily practices lead to a contented and happy life:

  1. Spending time in solitude
  2. Adopting simplicity
  3. Engaging in kindness
  4. Cultivating self-expression
  5. Respecting the body

Today I want to address the third of the daily practices, Engaging in Kindness.

Daily Practice #3 – Engaging in Kindness

In 2012, I wrote and published a spiritual memoir, The Practical Buddhist. In that book, I delineated my three-fold spiritual practice that was composed of:

Today’s post is about the third daily practice for a contented and happy life, The Practice of Engaging in Kindness and it’s very similar to the third bullet above.

About Engaging in Kindness

“My simple religion is kindness.” -His Holiness the Dalai Lama

There is a popular aphorism that encourages the performance of random acts of kindness. I’m in favor of that, of course. However, to adopt a daily practice of kindness involves more than being kind in a random manner.

The practice of engaging unkindness can be thought of in the following ways:

Why You’d Want to Engage this Practice

Kindness is an admirable practice. Nearly everyone benefits from frequent practice.

When we feel compassion and extend our kindness to one in need, the benefit is two-fold; both the giver and the recipient benefit. The recipient experiences the benefit of compassionate human contact and the giver experiences no small amount of self-love and self-gratitude.

Our children need to see us being kind. Most us of us teach our children that being kind is a virtue, and rightly so. We want them to grow into empathetic, caring, and kind adults. When our children catch us being kind, they are more inclined to be kind as well.

Become a Kindness Bodhisattva – There is perhaps no higher calling than to practice kindness on a daily basis. In Buddhism, a Bodhisattva is a person who is capable of achieving Nirvana (a state of supreme consciousness, like the Buddha) but delays doing so in order to help alleviate the suffering of others. When we choose to practice kindness on a daily basis, we are like the Bodhisattvas among us.

How to Engage Kindness on a Daily Basis

It’s quite easy to engage in kindness each and every day. The following suggestions will help you to practice kindness wherever you are.

Engaging the daily practice of kindness is one of the most beautiful habits we can choose to cultivate. The highest compliment I can be paid is to be called kind. (Karen recently did this and it brought me to tears.)

I hope that you will look for an opportunity to practice kindness today. 🙂

These daily practice posts are requiring longer than my 30-minute limit, but I’m sure you can see why and will forgive me. 🙂



One response to “30 For 30/30 #11 – The Daily Practice of Engaging in Kindness”

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