Hi, I’m Barry Wayne Morris and welcome to my personal site where I’m writing about my life as an introverted empath, writer, dad, and recent transplant to Southern California.
Understanding My Empathic Nature
On the Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory, I’ve scored for decades as an INFJ (Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging) personality type. A long time ago I heard about what was termed, the ‘more-so- theory that postulated that as we get older, we become even more-so like ourselves.
For example, if you’re a stingy person, it’s likely that as you age you will become stingier. I guess my consistent scores as a INFJ means I’m getting only more introverted, intuitive, etc.
In many ways, I’m not like a lot of other people. Though we each possess personal differences, mine go futher; I’m a highly sensitive person (HSP) and an empath. And, to top it off, as you’ve most likely assumed – I’m male. This, as I’ll explain, presents further differences both personally and professionally from most others.
What does it mean to be highly sensitive or empathic? For as long as I can remember, I was continually told:
- “Don’t be so sensitive.”
- “Put on your big-boy pants.”
- “Grow up and get over it.”
Obviously, those who offered these suggestions didn’t understand my personality type, and neither did I. As a child growing up in the 1960s and 1970s, I interpreted such directives as evidence that I was a misfit and, as a result, never felt that I fit in anywhere. I didn’t feel like I was a good fit at home within my family, at school, or later in the work world. That I felt out of place has been my reality from the beginning of life and, to a certain extent, it continues to this day.